Mothers are not only mothers, but also our Family's Financial Genius

A woman finds her best self after becoming a mother, and it is at this point that she also controls the finances of her home, her family's income, and other expenses. She effectively oversees her family's finances, provides for everyone's requirements, and always maintains a surplus.

Mothers are really responsible individuals. They undoubtedly have a significant impact on a child's upbringing. They are essential in shaping a child's mentality. The mother is responsible for a child's entire future.

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 5 Ways a Husband  Can Support His Wife During Her Periods

 

“Our society already considers periods as a taboo, making every girl feel more irritated! Dear men, let’s not add to that irritation because certainly that’s going to backfire and you blaming it on us PMS-ing is not the way to calm us down.” - Reference from bollywoodshaddis.com.

 

 

The time has gone when women used to be shy talking about periods. Now, this has become a common topic. Even men are becoming more aware of it now and helping their girlfriends and wife during their periods. A Period is the part of the menstrual cycle when a woman bleeds from her vagina for a few days. And, they’re going through a lot of hormonal changes like stress, cramps, abdominal pain, mood swings, low energy, and whatnot?

 

You should know how to make her feel better and that will help you in improving your relationships. This way, you both will understand each other’s needs, too.

Here’re a few ways by which you can support her during her menstruation days.

1.    Extra Affection

 

As I have previously mentioned, a lot of hormonal changes are happening. She needs your extra affection and cares apart from her daily routine. You may need to identify what exactly she is looking for. When a woman is in pain, she won’t say it directly but wants you just to be with her. These comfort her somehow. She deserves to be pampered, especially during those days of every month.

2.             Spend Quality time with her

 

She doesn't need any expensive gifts or special treats, but she needs your time and attention. There is no special gift than giving your precious time to your spouse. You’re the only one with whom she can talk endlessly. She can argue, fight, cry, or do anything. You can give her a little massage on her feet, back, or head, depending on whatever she enjoyed the most.

For e.g. If you both are sitting in a room but busy on the phone all the time. It doesn’t mean that you both have spent quality time together.

Quality time includes comfort, communication, and giving attention to each other.

3.             Watch a movie/Read a book/Listen to some Music

 

This is another great relaxation technique to make her feel comfortable. Trying watching a movie, reading a book, or listening to some music of her choice. This will make her relaxed, both physically and mentally. Meanwhile, you can do cuddling, giving hugs, and giving a kiss on the cheek can make her day.

4.             Comfort her

 

There are infinite things your partner does for you every single day. Now, it’s your time to pamper her a little more. Don’t forget to offer her tea/coffee or a glass of water. She might love it or not, but she’ll appreciate the efforts you have put in. You can also provide her with medicines, a hot-water bag for the pain, or anything that she is craving, like sweets, chocolates, etc.

5.             Stay Primed

 

The period comes every month. You may need to prepare yourself a little in advance for this. Just provide the things she needs. Help her out in managing household chores, taking care of kids, and buying groceries. You can download a few love messages like “I Love you”, “I Understand” “All is well” or any memorable pics, to share with her to lighten up her mood. You may need to identify what your partner loves.

 

Try helping your partner as much as you can, especially during the first two days. She’ll love you even more. It’s just a matter of a few days, so this is the chance to give your best to your partner in need. Make her feel special, make her smile, and do a little dance together. She will remember your gestures and feel blessed to have you as her soulmate. Hope these tricks will work great for your relationship.

 

Remember, every person and every menstrual cycle is different, so it's essential to communicate openly with your wife about her specific needs and preferences during this time. By being understanding, supportive, and actively engaged, you can help create a nurturing environment that helps your wife feel cared for and loved during her periods.

 

For husbands, what do you do to make your partner feel special during her periods?

 

For women who are reading this blog, how do you want your partner to make you feel special? Please share in the comment box below.

How Parents Can Encourage Their Kids to Speak Up

From the moment kids start speaking, we also teach them how to be quiet. Kids are told to use quiet voices just about everywhere they go (stores, classes, and waiting rooms, to name a few). When children also learn how to express themselves with confidence and assert their needs and ideas, they experience increased self-esteem, positive peer relationships, and better school performance. The ability to speak up helps kids manage their emotions, and conflicts in a healthy way.

Why is it important for your child to speak?

You are out for a walk in a park. Your neighbor comes and asks the child, “Why did you miss the school today?  The child is a little hesitant to answer. Seeing this, without wasting a moment, you answer for him. Have you ever thought about what damage this cost? Whenever you speak up for him you make him meek and dependent.

Now I have a question for such parents – Why don’t you allow your child to speak for himself?

Q. Do you think you are doing any good for your child?

Q. Do you know by not allowing the child to use his voice you are hurting his self-esteem?

If you don’t step in, you give your child a chance to think about what to say and how to say it. If you answer for your child that is disrespecting your child and he will feel you don’t believe in him. A child has a right to express his thoughts and opinions. He is capable enough to answer such questions.

We all know today’s child is tomorrow’s leader. If you really want him to contribute to society when he grows up, allow him to learn how to properly communicate with other people.

Suppose someone asks him his name and the child doesn’t respond, a wise parent would say, “Come on dear, he is asking you a question. Please do reply.” A wise parent will never reply to the child because he understands that as parents it is our job to teach our children how to engage with others. By not giving them a chance to speak you are limiting your child’s mental growth and lowering his self-confidence.

Let your child answer and decide simple things for himself, like:

• ·      Ordering food for himself at a restaurant
• ·      In a hotel he wants to go to the washroom, let him ask the waiter and find one for himself
• ·      He was not able to do the homework yesterday for some reason. He should have the courage to go and tell the teacher
• ·      Saying “No” for certain things

You are not supposed to speak for your child all the time. Sometimes he might be too shy or nervous or if you want to protect your child, you may have to reply for your child. Fine but don’t allow this to happen frequently. Let them speak up. By communicating with others, they will be prepared for the times when you won’t be by their side.

Take out time each day to have thoughtful conversations with your child. It can be at the dinner table or when you are doing something in the kitchen – ask him his opinion. Show some curiosity about his thoughts and opinions, and encourage him by saying – “Really amazing or very interesting.” Or “I am highly impressed. Tell me something more about it.”

Always keep in mind that as a parent your job is to prepare your child to live without you in the future. Show your faith in his abilities and encourage him to come out of his comfort zone. Let him build his independence and be capable of living up to his full potential.

Let’s not shush them, let’s teach them to use their voice effectively.

Points to remember:

• §  Understand the reason behind the shyness of your child
• §  Developing the ability to speak up takes time and practice
• §  Encourage the child to speak
• §  Teach them the benefits of self-advocacy
• §  Encourage your child to add to a conversation
• §  Give them the right words and confidence to speak

Book: WRONG

Book: NO SHADOW WITHOUT LIGHT

Publisher: The Write Place

Author: Luke Gracias

Genre: Historical Fiction

Pages: 368

Rating: 4*/5

Reading Time for the blog: 3 minutes

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BOOK REVIEW:

The book is a work of historical fiction. It is the second book in the series as much as I could relate to the storylines. Not being read the first one truly makes a void that the author has tried to fill by writing a short version of the first book in this one.

A treasure hunt for the twelve missing pages containing the devil’s prayer starts for the elimination of the population. Characters in the story are Jess, Luca, Siobhan, and the red monks. The story starts pretty slow, but when it picks up; the speed made it interesting for me. A lot of twist and turns awaits in the path for Siobhan and Lucas.

Siobhan and Jess, both sisters of the devil's offspring, try to get their hands on the missing treasure, but one is the guiding light fighting for humanity and one is giving her all for the destruction of humanity. The picture in between makes the reading refreshing and interesting.

Lucas, a police officer, finds his friend in a bizarre situation where his legs and hands are seized. something is written on his body with a language long forgotten. He tries to find answers to all these while crossing the path with Siobhan. What will happen now? Is love about to bloom in both of their destiny? Will they ever find the missing pages? Who will find it first less or Siobhan?

Too many questions with a lot of twists and turns to keep the readers engaged. Language is lucid and simple. Every detailed explanation of the historical relics blew my mind away.

A few of the quotes I liked are " social media has taught us that people will believe what they want to believe "

Meaning, social media is easy to access to viral anything in our brain, as always it has both positive and negative sides of society but mostly it's used for the negative sides, and blindly following social media most of the time leads to miscommunication and crimes.

Social media is like a virus nowadays. People find facts to justify their narrative, which might not even be true. The author has talked about a lot of things in the author's note, which most of the readers skip, but we should read this one. Topics like - carbon dioxide, fossils, social media, hope, Noah's ark, mother earth, population, and deforestation should talk about openly and positively, and we should take steps in the direction to make it better. Survival of the fetus is the best example which suits the story too. Forests are the lungs of the earth - deforestation because of urbanization is the worst as they are home to a lot of endangered species- species that are likely to become extinct soon either worldwide or in a particular political jurisdiction, Because of overpopulation other species in our planet is going in danger which should be an alert sign to all of us.

"Protect the planet you are born on "- I agree with this completely as mother earth gives us so many things to count - water shelter, food, fuel, etc. It's our job to protect these for our and our future generations. Because of deforestation, the level of oxygen is going low, co2 rises to make a hole in the ozone layer.

There are many endangered species like - the giant panda, Amur leopard, tiger, Geer lions, Javan rhinoceros, koala, etc. fossils - footprints/ imprints found of the animals before us in the ground's depth.

As the title suggests - there is no shadow without light, which I find quite fitting to the story as Siobhan is the light and her sister Jess is the darkness.

Kindly let me know what are you currently reading now?

Check out another book DEV’S LETTERS TO HIS TEACHERS - A kid with an attitude of gratitude DEV’S LETTERS TO HISTEACHERS - A kid with an attitude of gratitude

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5 Tips for a Fresh Start in the New Year 2023

Undoubtedly, we all go through difficulties in life. But always remember that we have one life to live and we should try to live in the best way possible. Covid-19 times taught us a lot of things unexpectedly, which shows that life is unpredictable. We can only try our best way possible to live happily and healthily.

For me, the first half year was exciting as my book “The Essence of Motherhood” got published in January, received a sympathetic response, and got featured in online newspapers, etc. But the second half year went in more of self-realization and in trying to conceive a second child. So, I had a lot of visits to the doctor and tried to follow a fitness routine, etc. Meanwhile, I also realized that I am grateful for so many people in my life who supported me all the time. There’s always something around that we’re grateful but in the hustle and bustle of life, we rarely notice that.

Here’re a few tips I would like to share with you on “How can you start afresh the new year 2023” positively.

5 Tips for a Fresh Start in the New Year 2023

1.   Be Grateful

Gratefulness is something that should come from within. Believe me, we all have something to be grateful for. We just need to learn to appreciate our daily life. Everyone has a story and a past to talk about, but it depends ever on the day we react to it. So, let’s try ‘being grateful’ every day for everything by writing or reading gratitude affirmations.

For eg.

•  I am grateful for my family, friends, and relatives.
• I am grateful to God
• I am grateful for this new day.
• I am grateful for another chance to live my life.

2.    Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness is paying attention to a particular thing with no judgment. It helps you to stay focused and concentrate only on the moment. Be mindful while you’re eating and pay full attention to the food, the texture, the taste, etc. Same as if you’re playing with the kid. Try giving full attention to the kid etc. same goes for the work. Don’t merge two things together.,

3.  Set S.M.A.R.T Goals

Having a goal plays a crucial role in personal and professional development. 

S: Specific

M: Measurable

A: Attainable

R: Realistic

T: Time-bound

It simply means whether your goal is personal or professional or both. We should set it with real deadlines, trackable, quite possible, and real. You can start by setting a small goal based on the day, quarterly, or yearly, etc. Let’s do this in the upcoming new year 2023.

4.   Plan and Schedule

As mentioned in the above points, you should have a goal. After that, planning is equally important in how you are going to lead it.

Without planning and proper scheduling, you won’t be able to achieve your target. Though you can try out some planners here and check what’s working the best for you. Remember, it’s about you and your life.

5. Move On…!

One thing we should learn from the clock is that “it keeps moving on”. Whether it’s the morning, the afternoon, the night, etc. it doesn’t stop for anyone. Then why do we?

Let’s take a pause for some time from everything and relax, but then let’s start afresh with new hopes, new plans, and fresh memories.

So, today is the first day of the year 2023. Allow yourself to welcome the new year with new hopes and new opportunities.

Here’re a few positive affirmations to welcome the new year.

1.    I am worthy of a successful year ahead.

2.    I am entering the near year with an open heart and an open mind.

3.    I am healthy and full of energy.

4.    I am making myself a priority this year.

5.    I promise to be healthier, happier, and wiser.

I would like to know what are your affirmations for the new year. In what ways are you trying to keep yourself positive? Kindly comment in the box below… This blog post is part of the Let's Say Hello 2023 Blogging Activity hosted by Swarnali Nath 

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Book: DEV’S LETTERS TO HIS TEACHERS - A kid with an attitude of gratitude

Publisher: Storymirror

Author: Charul Vikamsey

Genre: Non-fiction (Self-Help), Children's book (for the age 6 to 10 years)

Pages: 57

Rating: 4*/5

Reading Time for the blog: 3 minutes

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 Q. Do you want your kids to practice gratitude?

About The Author: Charul Vikamsey

Charul Vikamsey, with a Master’s Degree in Clinical Research, always had a bent towards teaching as a profession which she rightly took at several stages in her life. She is deeply spiritual and believes in ethics, love, and karma. Along with shouldering family responsibilities, she also follows self-grooming activities involving both physical and mental well-being. 

About The Book:

The book is about a schoolboy, Dev, who has written gratitude letters to his class teachers during the Covid-19 times. The boy has written heartfelt letters in simple language just to appreciate the efforts put in by all the subject teachers. The letters are written to English Teacher, Art Teacher, Math Teacher, Science Teacher, and Hindi Teacher. 

A teacher doesn’t help the kids only to grow professionally; but also enhances their personality as human beings. The kids spend most of their time in school with the teachers. Though teachers play a crucial role in shaping their both inner and outer personalities. Undoubtedly, a teacher knows what’s best for the kid and what are actually their strength and weakness. Being a parent myself, I think I know my child the best, but actually not really. There are a few teachers who’re equally helping us and our kids in shaping their future.

Who is the book for?

The book is not only strict to the teachers but to anyone who appreciates life and is grateful to whomsoever they meet and teach them something. But definitely a pickup for any school-going kid, especially for kids aged between 5 years to 10 years.

Why should you read it?

This is a quick read that conveys a deep message, i.e. ‘An attitude of gratitude”, says the author Charul Vikasmey. The writing style is lucid. Gratitude is something that should come from within. We should try inculcating this habit in our kids from a young age. It makes me wonder how kids can express their feelings and appreciate the efforts put in by all the subject teachers if given a chance. Charul has ensured that kids practice gratitude activities in their everyday life and inculcate a few habits like reading, communication, and physical activities. You can expect a few gratitude activities in the book to feel more content. 

I highly recommended the book for any school-going kid learning what gratitude really is. It would be more appreciated if the author can come up with more gratitude-filled activities for the kids that would help them understand better.

Qotd: Kindly mention in the comment box below, how are you teaching gratitude to your kids in their daily routine?

 So, what’re You Waiting For?

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