Showing posts with label relationship. Show all posts
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Wednesday, December 18, 2024

Book Review: WHY NOT ME? – The Pain of One-Sided Love

By    December 18, 2024 // No comments

 




Book: WHY NOT ME? – The Pain of One-Sided Love

Author:  Anubhav Agarwal

Genre: Non-fiction

Publisher: HarperCollins

Pages: 315

Rating: 4*/5

Language: Hinglish

Reading Time for the blog: 3 minutes

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Q. Have you ever faced unrequited love or heartbreak? How did it shape you as a person?

Q. Do you believe that every experience of love—whether joyful or painful—teaches us something valuable?

Q. How do you define self-love, and do you think it’s easy to practice during tough times?

 

About The Author

Anubhav Agrawal was born in Rampur (Uttar Pradesh) India. He's one of the most followed Author of India, with over 5 million followers on social media platforms.

He started writing in 2016; however, his videos received recognition in 2019, and within a year, they gathered more than 1 billion viewers on all social media platforms.

 

About The Book

Anubhav Agarwal’s Why Not Me? is more than just a story—it’s a heartfelt journey that delves into the universal emotions of love, rejection, and self-discovery. Written with raw honesty and simplicity, it resonates deeply with anyone who has experienced heartbreak and sought meaning in their pain.

 

 Who the book is for?

·       Aspiring Influencers and Content Creators

·       Digital Marketers and Social Media Managers

·       Entrepreneurs and Business Owners

·       General Readers Interested in Social Media and Pop Culture 

 

Why should you read it?

·      Relatable and Emotional: The book captures the unspoken feelings many people go through in relationships, making it easy to connect with.

·      Healing Through Words: It offers solace to readers navigating heartbreak by showing that moving on is possible and that self-love is the ultimate remedy.

·      Easy to Read: With its conversational tone and straightforward language, this book is perfect for readers of all levels, especially those seeking comfort without heavy literary complexity.

·      Life Lessons: It subtly teaches the importance of valuing yourself, even when the world doesn't seem to.

“Why Not Me? by Anubhav Agarwal is a must-read for anyone who has loved and lost and is searching for a way to heal. It reminds us that every ending can also be a new beginning, and the love we give ourselves is the most fulfilling. If you're looking for a book that speaks to your heart and helps you rediscover your strength, Why Not Me? is the perfect pick. It's not just a story; it's a guide to self-love and transformation. The book transcends age and gender, offering a universal message about self-worth and resilience.

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Friday, May 19, 2023

5 Ways a Husband Can Support His Wife During Her Periods

By    May 19, 2023 // 13 comments

 5 Ways a Husband  Can Support His Wife During Her Periods



 

“Our society already considers periods as a taboo, making every girl feel more irritated! Dear men, let’s not add to that irritation because certainly that’s going to backfire and you blaming it on us PMS-ing is not the way to calm us down.” - Reference from bollywoodshaddis.com.

 

 

The time has gone when women used to be shy talking about periods. Now, this has become a common topic. Even men are becoming more aware of it now and helping their girlfriends and wife during their periods. A Period is the part of the menstrual cycle when a woman bleeds from her vagina for a few days. And, they’re going through a lot of hormonal changes like stress, cramps, abdominal pain, mood swings, low energy, and whatnot?

 

You should know how to make her feel better and that will help you in improving your relationships. This way, you both will understand each other’s needs, too.

Here’re a few ways by which you can support her during her menstruation days.



1.    Extra Affection

 

As I have previously mentioned, a lot of hormonal changes are happening. She needs your extra affection and cares apart from her daily routine. You may need to identify what exactly she is looking for. When a woman is in pain, she won’t say it directly but wants you just to be with her. These comfort her somehow. She deserves to be pampered, especially during those days of every month.



2.             Spend Quality time with her

 

She doesn't need any expensive gifts or special treats, but she needs your time and attention. There is no special gift than giving your precious time to your spouse. You’re the only one with whom she can talk endlessly. She can argue, fight, cry, or do anything. You can give her a little massage on her feet, back, or head, depending on whatever she enjoyed the most.

For e.g. If you both are sitting in a room but busy on the phone all the time. It doesn’t mean that you both have spent quality time together.

Quality time includes comfort, communication, and giving attention to each other.




3.             Watch a movie/Read a book/Listen to some Music

 

This is another great relaxation technique to make her feel comfortable. Trying watching a movie, reading a book, or listening to some music of her choice. This will make her relaxed, both physically and mentally. Meanwhile, you can do cuddling, giving hugs, and giving a kiss on the cheek can make her day.



4.             Comfort her

 

There are infinite things your partner does for you every single day. Now, it’s your time to pamper her a little more. Don’t forget to offer her tea/coffee or a glass of water. She might love it or not, but she’ll appreciate the efforts you have put in. You can also provide her with medicines, a hot-water bag for the pain, or anything that she is craving, like sweets, chocolates, etc.



5.             Stay Primed

 

The period comes every month. You may need to prepare yourself a little in advance for this. Just provide the things she needs. Help her out in managing household chores, taking care of kids, and buying groceries. You can download a few love messages like “I Love you”, “I Understand” “All is well” or any memorable pics, to share with her to lighten up her mood. You may need to identify what your partner loves.

 

Try helping your partner as much as you can, especially during the first two days. She’ll love you even more. It’s just a matter of a few days, so this is the chance to give your best to your partner in need. Make her feel special, make her smile, and do a little dance together. She will remember your gestures and feel blessed to have you as her soulmate. Hope these tricks will work great for your relationship.

 

Remember, every person and every menstrual cycle is different, so it's essential to communicate openly with your wife about her specific needs and preferences during this time. By being understanding, supportive, and actively engaged, you can help create a nurturing environment that helps your wife feel cared for and loved during her periods.

 

For husbands, what do you do to make your partner feel special during her periods?

 

For women who are reading this blog, how do you want your partner to make you feel special? Please share in the comment box below.



Sunday, September 13, 2020

5 Things You Need to Stop Right Now to Improve Mental Health

By    September 13, 2020 // 7 comments


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Reading Time: 4 minutes

We all realize how much COVID-19 has affected us mentally.

No doubt, a lot of people have become consciously focussed on their physical health but being stuck at home, has affected their mental health too. Mental health is the key to achieve anything that we want to. It refers to the cognitive behavior and emotional well-being. Our thoughts are expressed and define the outcome of how our mental state of mind is.

Everything is recorded in our brain signifies what we represent to the outer world. With a little effort that we put in physical efforts, with the same, mental health is also taken care of. One should not ignore how mental health affects us. During Lockdown, both men and women have been loaded with a lot of work but women are the ones who were affected more and seem to be more responsible when it comes to household responsibilities whereas they were taking care of everything from cleaning, cooking, entertaining kids, and what not during lockdown days.

Relax ladies!

 Below are 5 mentioned things that need to quit immediately.


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1. Stop Judgment 

One needs to understand that judging someone or oneself defines how we think about them and ourselves. If we judge someone, we don’t accept them as they’re. Even if we’re judged by other’s points of view, we wouldn’t like it ourselves. First of all, we need to stop this on a serious note and start accepting things as they are.  It becomes a lot easier for us to connect with the things, the people. We can relate to the person’s feelings with ease.




 2. Stop Comparing

When a child is born, he/she is born with his/her own set of skills and inherent talent. one loses his/her self-identity when he/she compares himself/herself with others. As they grow up, their confidence is boosted up by the experiences. Therefore, one should be aware of his/her specific skills and should not to compare with anyone.


If you have the confidence then it becomes a lot easier to focus on oneself instead of making the comparison with others. As we know, most of the homemaker, their work is not appreciated when compared to the women who’re working from 9 am to 6 pm. For a homemaker, her family and kids’ are her priorities. For working women, completing her regular office tasks on given deadlines would be her priority.


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3. Stop Taking Things Personally

One needs to understand that everything is not about “you” all the time. People can talk behind your back and in front but it’s your responsibility not to take the things personally but just to ignore them. You don’t need to feel insecure all the time when people are talking about you whether it's positive or negative.

It’s their problem that they’re struggling with when they talk behind your back, they may not be able to reach where you’re, they may not compete with you, they might feel jealous of you but you should train your mind to see positivity in everything and make the mind more stable.


4. Stop Overreacting

Once you’ve decided “not to take the things personally” that means you’ve decided to value yourself more in terms of self-care. You need to stop overreacting to things that are not meant for you.

It’ll help you to stay calm and more focussed on the things which you want to accomplish. Overreacting to certain things makes everything worse. Therefore, one needs to be calm and observing things silently and adapting it quietly in their life.


5. Stop Feeding Your Mind The Garbage

If one wants to feel the mental calmness, then one needs to stop feeding the mind with the garbage but feeding it with good positive thoughts. It’ll help you to be more positive and relaxed. For allowing positivity to enter, one should do positive self-talk, reading something inspiring, doing what you enjoy the most, trying something new, etc.

For example, most of the women talk about their daughter-in-law and vice-versa, talking about their kids, their husband, their families, their schedule, their life problems, etc. what are they doing? This is the way they’re feeding their mind with the garbage and stopping themselves to feel gratitude for the things they’re already blessed with.


Mental Health can be improved by focusing on things like “letting it go” which no more suits you, give your mental health a break by doing a few breathing exercises, etc.

Allow your mental health to experience something new by

reading, journaling, meditating, helping someone, and being

grateful for everything in life.

Feel free to share your views in the comment box and also

share what do you do to improve your mental health?

Friday, September 4, 2020

How to Embrace Your Emotions to Save Marriage

By    September 04, 2020 // 42 comments

 



A human being is full of emotions from the day they are born. They have emotions like happiness, anger, sadness, fear, guilt, shyness, and so on. Human emotions are versatile and unpredictable, and they change every moment depending on how each person handles their emotions when they’re looking to gear up with themselves. 
Let us think about a situation, where a person is happy about getting news of a job promotion but at the same point, when he gets to know about his close relative’s demise, he becomes sad. We start memorizing the best time spent with that person.

Everyone has their own set of emotions and a different style of expressing them. Many express their emotions by speaking, whereas a few express them by being silent, and some by way of massive reactions. Even animals have their own set of emotions, although they have their own way of communicating them. Emotions play a crucial role in one’s life. 

Our emotions assist us in many things, such as conveying our message or meaning, providing us with clarity, calming us during difficult times, and making life decisions. Our subconscious mind behaves the same way we would like it to be treated. Therefore, if we give it positive thoughts, it’ll have a positive impact on our health and future thoughts.

To apply this idea, let’s look at the example of a slim girl named Amira. During her college days, she was quite an introvert: she never expressed her feelings, but instead kept them to herself for fear of hurting anyone. How does she feel? What if she’s looking for someone to talk to? She did not think it would be a good idea to express her feelings. She felt that either people would blame her or that she would end up hurting them. She was not confident about what to express, how much she should express, and to whom it should be shared. 

Being a shy girl, Amira never made friends with those whom her shared emotions would be safe. She never spent enough time with her family for them to know her likes and dislikes; she never made herself understood. Instead, she kept herself busy in activities like reading books, painting, journaling, and meditation, etc.. 

Because she always tried to hide her emotions, this caused anger to build up inside her. She used to become furious at the smallest things, like when her parents asked her plan for her marriage. Despite usually being very polite to her parents, she rudely walked away.

One day, she was sitting on the balcony with her parents drinking a cup of coffee. Her parents brought up the discussion of her marriage plans and, surprisingly, this time she was already prepared for it. Yes! After a long discussion with her parents, she made up her mind. But her anger kept bothering her. “How could she manage her marriage if she couldn’t express her feelings?”

Amira thought that maybe discussing things with her partner would help her to get herself out of a place of anger. Perhaps she might find comfort in expressing her feelings. But things were the same even after marriage. Being a new daughter-in-law, her responsibilities increased: her in-laws had expectations for her, and she wasn’t able to manage her anger with her husband; she would get furious every time. She asked herself, why was she unable to share her feelings? What made her so self-conscious? Why did she feel so blank? 

One day, sitting quietly in her room, she wrote down all the questions she had in a diary. What should she do to make it right? She cried for it weighed down her heart. Crying is always the best release for emotion when one’s heart tank is full. When we cry, we make space for new, positive feelings.

Luckily, Amira found a calm and supporting life-partner with whom she was able to express her feelings. He made her feel calm and comfortable. She discussed everything about her anger with her husband. An intelligent man, he asked her to find a state of calm first and then speak out to express whatever was running in her thoughts. He helped her to solve her queries.

In doing so, Amira’s husband gave her a few suggestions:
  • Write down all running thoughts
  • Don’t take everything  personally
  • Learn to adjust and build up interpersonal skills
  • Do something productive 
  • Start expressing yourself  

Amira followed all five pieces of this advice for a continuous 21 days, and guess what? She found herself transformed. Everything takes time to adapt, some more than others. For instance, internalized emotions like anger can take a while, whereas a few emotional releases like crying come naturally. 

Amira’s anger hadn't gone away, but she had learned how to manage it well. This helped her to improve her relationship with her in-laws, her parents, her friends, her husband, and, most importantly, with herself. She started loving herself more. 

In the years that followed, she learned other ways to manage her anger:
  • She started focusing on what made her happy
  • She started respecting everyone’s point of view
  • She started being grateful  
  • She started enjoying her life 
  • Most importantly, she accepted herself

Now, Amira is a more mature and determined person, who takes life’s worries as challenges that she can face gracefully. She thanks God for blessing her with great in-laws, a husband, and both the parents who stood up for her every time. She was no longer overwhelmed by negative emotions; most especially, she had overcome her anger. She was able to manage it now because she wanted to. Like Amira, we can also take control of our emotions.

Emotions have a powerful impact on our minds, health, and system. So, allow your mind and heart to decide which emotions of yours you want to pamper, and which ones to put in the garbage. Let us strengthen ourselves. Most especially, we want to control our emotions in the right manner and not allow anyone to control us.

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Monday, August 31, 2020

Book Review - Just Let Them Be - Parenting

By    August 31, 2020 // 10 comments

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Book: JUST LET THEM BE

Publisher: Self-published on Kindle

Author: Bala D Moorthy

Genre: Non Fiction (Self-Help)-Parenting

Pages: 153

Rating: 5*

Reading Time for the blog: 3 minutes, 6 seconds

Buy Kindle ebook: https://amzn.to/2QG1zE0


  • Why are kids stubborn? 

  • Why do they lack self-confidence?

  • Why do you think few kids are happier and responsible than others?

  • Looking for parenting advice? Are you a new parent or already in the parenting journey?

  • Does it sound familiar to you?


If yes, then this is the right book for parents like me who’re looking for suggestions in the process of bringing up their children in every aspect of life like physical, mental, intellectual, and emotional. Parenthood is a big responsibility and how both parents treat their children plays a significant role in the upbringing of their kids. All the things matter when the kid is happy, if she/he is not happy then something has to be done and certain actions need to be taken.


The author Bala d Moorthy of the book “ Just let them be- an unconventional way of bringing up self-disciplined, responsible, and happy children”  has explained clearly how parents can put in their best efforts in upbringing their kids. The author is the father of two lovely daughters, lives with them and his wife in the beautiful island nation, Republic of Fiji. Being a father of two daughters, he can understand from a parent’s point of view that how they feel and what all they should be aware of in the process of parenting.


He has expressed his views on various chapters like allowing the kids the way they’re, respecting them, preaching love, traveling and being creative with life, etc. 


Sibling senses chapter explains how planning another sibling for the kid is important too and how one child helps the other child in building up togetherness, in sharing visible resources, and supporting each other in hard times.


Every new parent wants to develop a “happier kid”, they don’t want to say “no” to their kids. As explained in the book, parenting is a journey, it's not a destination. The book meets the expectations of every parent who is concerned with their kids like:

  • how to teach them discipline 

  • how it is essential for them

  • how they can inculcate good eating habits

  • how they can be strict to their school work and play schedules

  • how proper sleep is important for their health.


I am inspired by the author’s words from the book, “In parenting life, one is a breadwinner and the other one is the one who cooks the bread”. Not comparing, both men and women have equal roles and responsibilities towards the upbringing of their little ones. But a woman plays a crucial role in the nourishment of their little ones in terms of the mind, body, and soul. 


One of my favorite chapters from the book is chapter no. 5  where the author depicts “recognizing individual strengths”.  


The author is asking to focus on 3 things:


  1. Attitude

  2. Skills

  3. Knowledge


Every human is different in terms of these above mentioned 3 things. So, it applies to the kids too. They also learn and grow up in life based on their experiences and how much they explore.

As a parent of 1.5-year-old, the book has motivated me a lot and did show me a clear picture of parenting and in helping me to raise a happy kid. The author has narrated each chapter beautifully which is easy to understand. 

This is my first parenting book read whose title caught my attention equally and convinced me to start reading the book. This book is highly recommendable for the parents who are seeking suggestions on their parenting. 

Feel free to share your reviews about the book and share what best efforts you're putting in to raise a happier kid in the comment box?

Enjoy your Parenthood Journey!


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